Had another councillor meeting today. We spoke of my past, how my life is, and went through a state of honesty.
Meaning I described my life and what my wife had done.
The councillor said at that moment in time, she felt anger towards my wife, because of what she had done 20 years ago, and then appoligised as she should be non judgmental
In hindsight, over the years, I wish we divorced at that time.